What’s Speaking To Us – Week of January 29, 2018

Moving The Conversation One Step Further

WSFT is committed to taking the conversation one step further toward better solutions for women, and for men and their children.

We are often reading the news and surveying social media with an eye for what is resonating and what isn’t concerning women, abortion, sex, dating, and marriage. And we want you, too, to feel empowered to add your voice–in comment boxes, letters to the editor, on social media, or among family and friends.

This week’s What’s Speaking To Us highlights a few stories we think moved the conversation one step forward for women, and a few stories we wished would have moved the conversation even further.

A Homeless Woman The Pro-Life Movement Should Know

ou likely have heard the story of a hero cop, Ryan Holets, who helped a drug addicted homeless woman give life to her baby, and then he and his wife adopted her baby. The President honored them in his State of the Union last Tuesday, in what many praised as a touching pro-life moment. Others were frustrated the President didn’t extend the story a little bit longer, highlighting the recovery of the birth mother and her boyfriend, thanks to the help and support of the officer and his wife.

Count us among those who think it was a beautiful pro-life moment and that the nation needed to hear the rest of the story.
It would have been a great moment to show how pro-lifers love them both!

Elizabeth Bruenig at the Washington Post had a beautiful article and summary of how the Holets’s have and continue to support the birth mother, Crystal Champ, by raising money for her and her boyfriend’s addiction treatment, and supporting her on the journey toward sobriety.

‘Why wasn’t this story highlighted more?’ some wondered. Bruenig writes:
“[T]heir story highlights some difficult truths about what it takes to help one another. Fast, dramatic changes made in the lives of morally unimpeachable people make for the simplest and most uplifting stories. But real human beings are notoriously morally compromised, and real change often takes long periods of time and repeated efforts to achieve. Moreover, the blameless and the blameworthy are threaded together, in life, in a web of inseparable interdependence. It simply isn’t possible, in most cases, to maximally help the innocent while neglecting the accountable: The two groups are irreversibly entwined. They need one another. We all belong to each camp at various times in our lives, and we always need one another.”

Well-said! And let us remember the “long-view” as we seek to restore our communities and culture.

A WSFT Member Speaks Up and A Grocery Store Complies

We love a good success story! A WSFT member noticed a sexually explicit Cosmopolitan displayed in the checkout line, at eye level for children. Inspired by WSFT reminding our members that “just one woman can make a difference,” she wrote to the customer care email address at Publix. And Publix listened. The manager wrote:

Please accept my sincere apology for the Cosmopolitan cover at the checkout line. This particular shipment was delivered to our store the day before and should not have been displayed at the checkout line considering the content. I share your concern. I have a young niece and I know this is something I would not want her to be exposed to.”

Read more of this fabulous story at the WSFT Blog!

How #MeToo is Shaping The Conversation About Sex

We talk about #MeToo every week because #MeToo continues each week. And we’re particularly glad to see the mainstream attention it’s putting on things like women’s desires in relationships, their lack of satisfaction in the hook-up culture, and what can be done for their empowerment.

Washington Post columnists Christine Emba and Alyssa Rosenberg wrote out one of their “water cooler” conversations about sex and women’s unhappiness. We found ourselves cheering at the fact that they recognize women particularly aren’t happy in the sex scene as it is. They also recognize that saying “no” or stating preferences in intimacy requires an element of emotional and relational skills that not all women and men aren’t always equipped with in relationships.

But we were disappointed at the comment that there are “a lot of reasons to have sex”, but no mention the life-creating potential always present in sex. And they didn’t go one step further to the fact that sex is always better in marriage– because when you’re not worried he’s going to break up with you, it makes those sometimes awkward, uncomfortable conversations about preferences and needs a little bit easier

Raising Awareness About Fetal Pain In Medical Communities

The Senate may have failed to pull the Pain-Capable Bill one step forward, but one of our WSFT media trained members–neonatologist, Dr. Robin Pierucci–wrote a terrific piece about infant fetal pain that went nearly viral and was shared by the American College of Pediatrics and the Catholic Medical Association.

We’re so grateful that Robin was able to use her voice and her experiences in this important pro-life conversation:

“Whether they are term or extremely immature, even though they can’t use words, babies in every neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) clearly do not react well to what the adults know are painful procedures.”

Brava, Robin!


WSFT is trying to create a world that is intellectually honest about women’s freedom, about the good of keeping sex, marriage, and children together, and about how our sexualized culture has immiserated women and their families. Because our goals are so lofty and countercultural, we read the news with a careful eye for signs of hope, and to find the places where our voices are needed. Our weekly update—What’s Speaking To Us—will give you a view into what we’re reading, what we’re thinking, and how we’re speaking for ourselves in the media or in our communities.

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