If you have decided that this year is your year to “be the change you wish to see in the world”, here are the resolutions for you!
- “I will commit to a cause that speaks to me AND needs me.”
Looking for your cause? How about ours? ALL women (indeed, all people) are deeply affected by our culture’s disconnection of sex from marriage and kids—on an immediate, personal level and on a social level.
Not only must sex be reconnected with marriage and kids in the pubic imagination, but women need to do the connecting. We can’t save everyone at once, or solve all the world’s problems. But we can accomplish significant things-more that we dreamed- if we focus our attention on the issues that most need us.
Women need to speak the truth publicly, in traditional media and online, to overturn the myth that they need abortion/no-cost BC/casual sex to be “free”.
Women also need to have the time, resources, and courage to speak the truth privately when our friends and loved ones come to us with the most intimate details of their lives. Which brings me to your next resolution:
- “I will give priority to my circle of influence.”
Is there a problem in your life that keeps you up at night? Single women- maybe you want to improve the dating culture in your social group? Moms- are your kids’ classmates spouting some scary stuff about relationships? The communities that cause you the most concern are also likely to be where you are most valuable and most needed.
What if your concerns are more broad- if you want to ensure that all people live in a society with greater wisdom regarding sex, marriage, and family formation? For the vast majority of people, this means, starting local– in your hometown. As a citizen and taxpayer, your opinions will carry the greatest weight with your own local paper, school board, or political representatives. And that’s where you’re most likely to be given a platform too.
3. “I will brainstorm ideas, and then choose one item to start on right away.”
Once you have chosen your cause and your circle of influence, brainstorm what actions you might you want to take. Maybe you want to start a class on relationships for the teens in your school, or the women at your local crisis pregnancy center? Maybe you want to send regular letters to the editor on negative cultural and political sexual influences? Or lobby local politicians on relevant legislation regarding women, men, children, and families? Write down several ideas, and choose the one that most excites you.
4. “I will write down small steps and then schedule time to do each one.”
When you have an idea, break it down into smaller steps like: (1) Call the pregnancy center and see if they already have a relationships class; (2) Research good curriculum or consider writing my own, (3) Text my friend Sarah to see if she will help, etc. Then schedule each one in your Google Calendar or planner.
5. “I will check my progress once a month.”
Schedule a time at least once a month to see how much progress you have made on your ideas. Some months will be busier than others, but checking your progress will remind you to make time for really important things.
- “I will be brave, bold, and outspoken because I really care, not because I’m angry.”
Sex and relationships are inherently personal subjects. Many women want to improve the culture around them—or even concentrate on their friends and loved ones—but are afraid to speak about personal issues for fear of sounding judgmental or indiscreet. While these are very real concerns, most can be alleviated by speaking in the right tone. WSFT is here to show you how to talk about these issues- but you need to be brave enough to begin the conversation in your own home and community.
If we don’t do it, who will? And if not now, when?