When I began charting my cycles, I thought that it would have little effect on me or my future marriage. It was only a method of identifying fertile and infertile days, right?
Boy, was I wrong! Instead, after using the Creighton Model FertilityCare System, I found that I was aware of my weaknesses, my insecurities, my body, and myself in a whole new way!
- Charting Changed My Fears About My Body
Charting assuaged fears about my body that had plagued me since childhood. Before, mood-swings, fertility and pregnancy had struck me as this ambiguous thing that my body did, largely without my consent. But after charting, I could better understand why my mind and body were doing what they were doing.
- Charting Changed My Fears About Having Children
Before charting, I figured that after I married, I would be at the mercy of my whimsical body as to when and if we got pregnant and how many times. For someone with a long-term discomfort at the thought of children, I felt pretty anxious about it.
Charting reduced my anxiety. I understood that children were the fruit of a cooperative effort between my husband’s and my discernment and what my body was telling me. The fear of children I had wrestled with since childhood subsided and eventually abated when I came, not only to understand, but also to truly appreciate my fertility and the amazing powers a woman’s body holds.
- Charting Made Me A Better Observer and Communicator
Even more unexpectedly, I began to notice a new self-awareness regarding how I communicated to others and myself. It’s not that I was a dishonest person before charting, but when I began charting, I realized my tendency to discount or over-simplify things.
Just as I couldn’t explain away or disregard fertility signs, no matter how much I thought one or another didn’t make sense that day, so too could I not disregard other unusual occurrences in my everyday life.
It also made me more attentive to the experiences of others. When someone asked me a question, I suddenly cared more about the answer. I no longer shrugged it off. Since I had become more accountable to myself, I was now also more accountable to others.
- Charting Improved Communication in Our Relationship
In the 2 ½ years we’ve been charting now, my husband and I have come to the conclusion that it’s not simply a form of family planning. It’s truly a lifestyle. Since natural methods of fertility regulation require the principle of “selective intercourse,” we dialogue a lot more. Not only about my fertility and our family plans, but about our marriage in general. A conversation about sex or about whether it ‘s a good time for another baby definitely helps us to discuss other aspects of our marriage we otherwise might have overlooked.
I expected none of this when I first started charting. What a gift it’s been for my marriage, and my sense of peace and freedom.
Emma King graduated cum laude from Hillsdale College in May, 2013 with a BA in Philosophy. She is happily married to a wonderful man and lives in Michigan, where she is a Creighton Model FertilityCare Practitioner.